If you instantly fall in love without really knowing a person, if you can’t stop thinking about someone, if your mood depends entirely on whether your love interest called you today, then you are prone to unhealthy emotional dependence. It is usually a trait of people who don’t have enough love for themselves and feel the need to seek it from the outside. It turns into a vicious circle of toxic relationships, but, fortunately, there is a way out of it.
Emotionally dependent people put their partner on a pedestal and build their whole lives around them. They try to either completely control their partner, or they play the role of the victim while they actually derive pleasure from their own suffering.
Psychotherapist Darlene Lancer writes that true love and emotional dependence are different things and it’s crucial to learn how to tell them apart.
We at Bright Side collected alarming signs that indicate the beginning of unhealthy affection. Don’t let yourself fall into the trap of toxic relationships.
10. You immediately think that you have found the love of your life.
There are people who are very amorous and after the first date they race home with feelings of, “This is the perfect person whom I’ve been waiting for all my life!” Unfortunately, it often turns out that this is not so. After meeting someone who gives you butterflies, wait some time until you cool off to see how you feel.
If you find yourself in such a situation, take a break every few days to be on your own and do something that distracts you from thinking about this person.